A long love story

Love is painful. Love is mutation. Each transformation is going to be painful because the old has to be left for the new. The old is familiar, secure, safe, the new is absolutely unknown. You will be moving in an uncharted ocean. You cannot use your mind with the new, with the old, the mind is skillful. You can’t have ecstasy without going through agony. If the gold wants to be purified, it has to pass through fire. Love is fire. It is because of the pain of love, millions of people live a loveless life. To suffer in love is not to suffer in vain. To suffer in love is creative. It takes you to higher levels of consciousness. The person who is without love knows only himself. You will never know yourself without knowing the other. Love is very fundamental for self-knowledge too. Relationship is a mirror, and the purer the love is, the higher the love is, the better the mirror, the cleaner the mirror. The higher love needs that you should be open. The higher love needs you to be vulnerable. You have to drop your armor that is painful. You have to risk. You have to live dangerously. The other can hurt you that is the fear in being vulnerable. The other can reject you that is the fear in being in love. The challenge has to be taken. One has to go into love. Love is an open sky. To be in love is to be on the wing, but certainly, the unbounded sky creates fear. We think the ego is our only treasure. We have been protecting it, we have been decorating it, we have been continuously polishing it, and when love knocks on the door, all that is needed to fall in love is to put aside the ego, certainly it is painful. It is your whole life’s work, it is all that you have created, this idea that “I am separate from existence.” This idea is illusory, but our society exists, is based on this idea that each person is a person, not a presence. You are part of the whole. The whole penetrates you, the whole breathes in you, pulsates in you, the whole is your life. Love gives you the first experience of being in tune with something that is not your ego. Love gives you the first lesson that you can fall into harmony with someone who has never been part of you. Love is a ladder. It starts with one person, it ends with the totality. Love is the beginning. To be afraid of love, to be afraid of the growing pains of love, is to remain enclosed in a dark cell. Love creates problems. You can avoid those problems by avoiding love, but those are very essential problems. If you don’t go into love, as many people have decided, then you are stuck with yourself. Then your life is not a river going to the ocean, your life is a stagnant pool and soon there will be nothing, but dirt and mud. Go through the dark night and you will reach to a beautiful sunrise. It is only in the womb of the dark night that the sun evolves. It is only through the dark night that the morning comes. Fall in love with someone who chooses you just as confidently as you choose them. Commit to the person who lifts you up whenever things get rough, the person who fights to make things work when the reality of life gets difficult and discouraging. Fall in love with someone who sees the wars within you and not only chooses to stay, but chooses to stand by your side and help you fight them. Strive to find someone who cradles your dark, who embraces your light, someone who always wants to be your best when you and yourself are not your best, someone who reminds you of every strong thing you are, whenever you feel feeble. Give your heart to someone who does not call you weak for feeling so deeply, someone who adores the soft creature you are, and who fights to protect it in a hardened world. Fall in love with someone who challenges you, who inspires you to think and feel. Fall in love with someone who respects you for changing because they understand that it means you’re growing. Dedicate yourself to the person who stands in awe of how you bloom, how you flourish, someone who loves you not only for who you are, but for who you have the potential to be. Don’t ever settle for less. Keep waiting. Keep learning about yourself, keep trying and fighting for the heart within your chest. Keep growing and nourishing your wants, keep discovering your needs. When the time is right, you are going to fall in love with someone who will appreciate everything you stand for. When the time is right, you will finally understand why you had to wait so long.

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