It’s a Wonderful Life

Some people are not ready when you meet them. Not yet. People’s past, demons, whatever it is, they need to first prove something to themselves. Some people won’t understand this and think, “the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people” or “you never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless.”. But I beg to disagree, and would counter with, some people are not simple. Some love isn’t simple – it’s okay if it is, as long as you understand that for some, the path of true love is not easy. The right people are timeless, but what makes them timeless is your eternal love for them, and theirs for you. They make your soul alive, and that is timeless. The truth is, we don’t pass the love of our life up because the timing is wrong, we simply admit to ourselves that sometimes, love is not enough. One of the most heart wrenching words in human language is the word “closed.” Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” Maybe you’ve dreamt from the time you are 13 about the one you will marry, about the thrill of falling in love, the beauty of the wedding day, the utter release and peace of being held by someone who loves you above all others, but the door closes again and again. Or perhaps you come to your mid-forties and step back and take stock of your life and what you hope to accomplish. You decide to stay with the firm and give it your best shot. And in five years, after hundreds of late nights and long weekends and working vacations, you’re passed over for the promotion and the door closes on the dream-job of your career. Or maybe all your career doors are open, and all the doors of your relationships are open, and you have made every team you ever tried out for, but now the doctor says you have cancer. And all the doors start to close. Back in 1976, Jerry Garcia sang a song which captures the feelings of the closed door and the end of a dream: “I was in the right place, but it must have been the wrong time/ I was sayin’ the right things, but I must have used the wrong line/ I was on the right trip, but I must have used the wrong car/ My head is in the right place, but I’m wondering what it’s good for.” Sometimes we meet the right people at the wrong time, and no matter how badly we want it, at that moment in our life the differences are just too big, and there’s is no logical solution to working them out. Your friends think you’re crazy, you feel crazy yourself. Why, in a world full of billions, are you allowing one to keep holding you back? You can’t answer that. “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.”

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